tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post8458782696110797060..comments2023-09-10T03:50:50.036-07:00Comments on Mastering My Midlife (and midriff!): Broken Yolks and Burnt ToastShanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13040527560710894077noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-82108830533132172962015-04-22T14:20:05.404-07:002015-04-22T14:20:05.404-07:00I am soooooo sorry. I am going to write a post for...I am soooooo sorry. I am going to write a post for you right now! Big kiss.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13040527560710894077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-49519735919824114652015-04-20T12:54:24.328-07:002015-04-20T12:54:24.328-07:00You haven't been here in sooooooooo long. I ge...You haven't been here in sooooooooo long. I get that you are evolving -- and focusing on what is most important (you and health). But please at least give us an update on how you are and maybe your thoughts of writing/blogging/changing? Heathy thoughts your way........MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-60132174530998541272015-04-12T13:18:05.849-07:002015-04-12T13:18:05.849-07:00Oh Hanna, we girls are so much the same aren't...Oh Hanna, we girls are so much the same aren't we. I'm glad we both stood up for ourselves and rightfully took care of ourselves before it became too late and thrilled that we are both on the mend. Although your condition is much more fierce than mine, our feelings around it are much the same.<br />We can totally rattle together. I feel like a dealer walking around with all these different tablets and tinctures, and viles of stuff.<br />Sending you big hugs back and I cannot wait to hear your good news.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13040527560710894077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-55745179927877684692015-04-12T13:14:14.637-07:002015-04-12T13:14:14.637-07:00Thanks Bella. We never do see ourselves the way ot...Thanks Bella. We never do see ourselves the way others do, right? But thank you for the last sentiment. It is beautiful.<br />Big hugs.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13040527560710894077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-60942743728699059102015-04-01T00:44:45.864-07:002015-04-01T00:44:45.864-07:00Oh my god Shannon, huge hugs from over here!
That...Oh my god Shannon, huge hugs from over here! <br />That's horrible, horrible, HORRIBLE and I've been so slack and only just read your post. I started smiling at the burnt toast and mooshed yolk (yup same thing goes on over here!), and then the self credit - well I've never been particuarly great at that, think it's something we all could do a lot more of actually because (without stealing the L'oreal line too much) we really are WORTH IT! .......but then I was so shocked by what I read about your health. Noooooo that's not allowed to happen to lovely, kind, clever and giving people like you! <br />I guess I've been in your boat but with different circumstances, (if anyone else reads this I've recently finished my cancer treatment and should, fingers crossed, be getting the all clear in 2 weeks times!) but going back to last year before the first actual hospital visit, and there I was at home, phone in hand questioning whether to ring as I didn't want to be wasting the doctors time. In retrospect it's utterly stupid but that's exactly what I felt, in fact that happened twice as the pills the first doctor gave me didn't work and so I needed to go back, experiencing it all again, the same feeling of doubt and not giving myself the credit and worth that I/we deserve. But truth of the matter is that if I hadn't rung I probably wouldn't be around anymore to write this...........so I've learnt (perhaps the hard way and now perhaps you have too?) that we are worth SO much more than we give ourselves credit! Self credit, acceptance of our place in this little world is our right as much as it is the successful business person sat next to you on the train (or more likely zooming past in the dead swanky car!) We're all equal and deserving.........100%, straight down the line! <br />I really hope you feel better soon.......it must be a relief to have a name for what you've been feeling for so long, but my god that was some scary s*#t!! <br />Think of you lots and keep knocking back those pills (which I'm pretty sure you don't like doing at all!) right now we can rattle together :)<br />Take HUGE care x xHanna Nivenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17665082141776144815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-42732445503435201942015-03-25T07:48:07.329-07:002015-03-25T07:48:07.329-07:00shan,
So good to hear from you! I wish I could ai...shan,<br /><br />So good to hear from you! I wish I could air mail you some homemade soup! <br /><br />Henry Rollins sings in "Low S(elf) O(pinion) " " if you could see the you that I see, you'd see yourself so differently" . Or something like that. OK, he pretty much yells it.<br />I remember a church elder asking me if I'd join the Hospitality Committee because I'm so "warm, friendly & happy". Funny, I've been clinically depressed my whole life & I have terrible social skills! <br /><br />Also, if you're spiritual or religious you have self worth "just because" you are God's creation. It helps to remember that sometimes.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-4780273480754707652015-03-24T09:35:51.909-07:002015-03-24T09:35:51.909-07:00Donna,
It was a very interesting experience. A hea...Donna,<br />It was a very interesting experience. A heart attack is no joke, so when I thought that's what was going on, it really helped to sort out some priorities in a hurry. I'm glad it wasn't a heart attack and am thrilled to be finally getting treatment - but it's slow going.<br /><br />I agree with you about our limitations. Many of them we put upon ourselves out of doubt or fear or whatever, but our friends and family likely never see us in such a limited way. We tend to believe in those we love, so why is it so hard to turn that belief inward towards ourselves? That's the challenge and it's been a good one for this month.<br /><br />You made me think about this too. We're quite the dynamic duo! lol.<br />Big hugs<br />ShanShanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13040527560710894077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-26853502169974869112015-03-24T09:32:28.570-07:002015-03-24T09:32:28.570-07:00Hey Gia,
Yes, I hope that after all of the stuff I...Hey Gia,<br />Yes, I hope that after all of the stuff I'm taking to heal that my body will naturally once again find balance including my iron levels. I am trying to drink as much water as I can and I sleep a lot!<br />Thanks girl.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13040527560710894077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-30652116290024256542015-03-24T09:31:30.898-07:002015-03-24T09:31:30.898-07:00Hi Mimsy,
Wow! Shingles are supposed to be one of ...Hi Mimsy,<br />Wow! Shingles are supposed to be one of the most painful things you can get! I am so glad you got through it and started taking care. We are so accustomed to taking care of others and not stopping to take care of ourselves.<br />It's amazing how are bodies are able to communicate, even if they have to sometimes shout!Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13040527560710894077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-53710953928144493562015-03-09T12:29:55.579-07:002015-03-09T12:29:55.579-07:00Oh my friend Shan!!!!!!!!!!! My eyes are flooded ...Oh my friend Shan!!!!!!!!!!! My eyes are flooded with tears as I write this. <br /><br />First of all . . . I am just so sorry to hear that you've not been feeling well but you must be SO relieved that the problem has been identified and that you are on the road to recovery. What a terrifying experience for you and your husband, and I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Please keep us posted on how you are feeling. I hope that you will feel better than ever very soon!<br /><br />Second, I appreciate your words more than you can know and I am so glad and so thankful that I had some small part in inspiring you to develop this monthly virtue. Self Credit - YES! I love everything about this. <br /><br />Obviously I don't want to be arrogant, or self-involved, or have a superiority complex, but I do need to be mindful that I have some value in this world - and that I offer something to others. I don't practice "Self-Credit" enough (or at all?!?) - and after reflection, I believe that because I don't, self-doubt creeps in and takes over and I do not actively seek out - or compete for - various opportunities or experiences - because I believe I can't or I'm not good enough. I think I don't live life fully enough because I am scared of my limitations - some of which may be imagined. How sad is that? Dumb dumb dumb! Girl, you are on to something with Self-Credit. Thank you for making me think about it. I'm just so thankful for you!<br /><br />Hugs and love, xoxo<br />Donna<br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-83513761292273719742015-03-07T16:41:47.906-08:002015-03-07T16:41:47.906-08:00Oh my goodness! It must be a relief to find out wh...Oh my goodness! It must be a relief to find out what been wrong! Maybe your immune system & iron levels will be normal!<br /><br />Please rest, drink lots of fluids! Praying for you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515681361792943705.post-76894689993430662082015-03-05T13:06:41.999-08:002015-03-05T13:06:41.999-08:00Oh my God, Shan!
First, yes I am glad you figured...Oh my God, Shan!<br /><br />First, yes I am glad you figured it all out...but I know for a fact that I too would think for a minute the same exact thing that you did. Is that not terrible? And the same thing with not feeling "right" or something and deciding to live with it. A few years back I was feeling increasingly overwhelmed and depressed. So every night when I had no energy to do something healthy or positive to address the stress, I would just sit on the sofa and have a glass of wine...or 3. And then when I never felt better (and started to feel worse and worse) I figured, well we know how I'm spending my nights, so what's the surprise? I kept feeling worse and not dealing with anything, and then one day I was in a (very minor) fender-bender in my boyfriend's car. I spent all day worrying about what I would tell him, and at the same time feeling physically worse and worse. Finally, I broke out in what I thought might be hives from the anxiety. Actually, it was the shingles! The doctor said it was rare for someone my age to get them unless you are freakishly run down...big eye opener. <br /><br />Looking back, I knew something was wrong (many things were wrong), but my body had to stop being subtle before I would listen. In a way, I didn't give myself enough credit--I didn't believe that I could know these things.<br /><br />Excellent virtue...and even better news that you're on the mend!<br /><br />Mimsy mimsynoreply@blogger.com